I’ve Got a Secret

Faisal Alsurayhi- Team 4

Confidentiality, lying and secrecy are concepts that are used (passive voice) interchangeably , and each of them has a way in which they affect the way people interact. There was an instance here I had to face an issue that was revolving all the three of them and the way I reacted and led to an achievement of their meanings. The case took place in school where I had to lie so as (concise language please) to ensure that everything remained as planned. I had a friend called Larry , and he was going through a lot of difficulties after he lost both of his parents in a road accident. He was the only son in their family , and therefore he had to find a way in which he could make money that would sustain him while still undergoing the university education.

Larry was really determined to finish school so that he could be able to pick from where his parents left. He was affected psychologically to an extent where he could not even grasp the simple instructions that came from the professors in class. Larry kept on thinking about the way he could survive both at home and in school. People started staying away from him because of the high temper that he had towards people who interfered with his life endeavours endeavors. Larry was my find , and he used to tell me all his plans. Larry believed that I was the only person who understood his problems and therefore I could support him mentally and physically.

As time passed, Larry had to drop out of school because he was not able to pay for the remaining school fees. The determination that Larry had was high , and that made him to find an alternative means of getting money. He first promised me not to tell anyone that he had lost his parents because that was something that affected him while in the presence of people with parents. Larry therefore decided to rob people coming from work and he one day ended up killings an old man who was coming from the shopping center. I was an eye witness when Larry grabbed the old man and twisted his neck killing in him instantly. After that, he ransacked his pockets and ran away with business cards and also the money that the old man had.

Larry told me to keep that incidence a secret because he could end up in jail when found guilty. The police kept coming to our home while carrying out investigations about the incidence. The police asked me whether I knew anything that took place on the day when the old man died. They also asked me if Larry was part of the incidence since he was a commonly known thug. I always presented lies that on that day I was not in town and that Larry was with me at the country side. I had to lie so as to protect the secret that Larry told me to keep so as to make sure that he was not taken (passive voice) to jail. Larry has never been caught (passive voice) , and that happens because of the secrecy that I have had towards whatever he did and also the kind of confidentially that I have with respect to concerning his personal life. This story is a clear indication that an intersection exists between secrecy, lying , and confidentiality. Therefore, none of them can work without the support of the other.

Excellent story and narrative flux. Good combination of concepts. Please check language.


Individual Assignment 4: I’ve got a secret Team 4

A little secret about the End of my Solitude

Ten days ago , my professors of the class “How We Know What We Know” gave us an individual assignment: a 48-hour news blackout. Its purpose was to help me , and my fellow students understand the importance of the impact of news in our lives and give us the opportunity to experience a measure of solitude and distance from the news as it impacts our daily lives.

I did the assignment, partially, possibly not exceeding 80%. I will explain why shortly. I completed the assignment my professors asked and emptied my thoughts and reflections about this unusual experience: living outside of my Global Village for approximately 2 days.

My professors are asking me to write a new assignment: “I’ve got a secret”. And yes, I must confess: I’ve got a secret; a little one. I wasn’t totally (entirely?) news blacked out for 48 hours. My concern now is related to confessing this secret; Will it affect me in my class or not? Will it damage my reputation or autonomy in my academic environment?

The history of my little secret began when I experienced an almost a 24-hour news blackout. For the first time , I felt completely alone in terms of regarding communication, one of the most important aspects of my life. As I described in my previous assignment, this new and rare experience caused me a huge state of anxiety. I wanted to know, for example, what where the news related to the massacre at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School and what was happening with the killer, identified as Nikolas Cruz. Due to the assignment: 48-hour news blackout, away from the Global Village, this was impossible for me to achieve.

The following day I asked my parents with total (complete?) dissimulation and later requested the same from a friend, about the situation. After a few hours of pertinent information and reality check, I returned dutifully to the terms for of the news blackout required for my assignment.

I asked both my parents and my friend to a kept secret that I had violated my teacher’s instructions. I had left my “Code of Silence”, without proper authorization. It had been only for a few hours , but all the experiences reflected in my assignment were real, that is to say, everything I wrote was the truth.

But having kept such little secret and above all, reveal it this way, makes my situation a bit uncomfortable. I hide no other secrets , ; thus I end my assignment. I am cautious of the resulting embarrassing implications, as professor Blevens mentions in the video that I saw on this subject.

Professor Blevens is right: “secrecy equals intentional concealment , and that overlaps with privacy.” I don’t know how the deputy Director of the FBI in 1972 Mark Felt, might have felt when he revealed to Bob Woodward, journalist of The Washington Post, crucial information about the Watergate case, which caused the resignation of then President Richard Nixon.

In my case, I hope that the protection of some of the aspects of my real identity may be hindered by the revelation of my little secret (passive voice sentence). Likewise, I don’t want anyone to think that I deceived anyone, nor that my parents and friend were accomplices or something bad. Professor Blevens stated that secrecy speaks to power ; , and it means human autonomy. What does that imply in my situation? It was simply a little secret regarding the End of my Solitude.

Excellent way to link assignments and coherence. Refreshing that somebody remembers the theory and classes. Watch the language.

I won’t tell if you don’t!

Secrets. They’ve been a part of human interaction since humans learned how to interact. (!) Although it’s not rare for secrets to become becoming public knowledge, they’re shared in confidence when a level of trust has been established (passive voice) among two people or more. Even though the relationship of the individuals is strong enough to endure secret keeping, relationships outside of the secret can be directly affected. Keeping the secret of one of my closest friends -who to this day is considered more of a blood relative than a friend- from not only her family (my second family) but from my own, proved to be more of a grueling task than I ever imagined.

During the beginning months of our senior year and my cousins’ sophomore year, we had our traditional sleepover, where no sleep was happening. Boys were a topic of discussion as they always were, we danced , and ate to the point that breathing was becoming a struggle afterwards, but it wasn’t until the night owl hours of the morning when my cousin and I became secret keepers. The secrets I’ve been told (passive voice) throughout my life have been minuscule or somewhat adolescent compared to what I had been told (passive voice, again) that night at our sleepover when one of our best friends confided in us the realization she had regarding her sexuality.

We were sworn to secrecy, specifically when it came to our family. While the secret strengthened the bond among the three of us, it left me feeling guilty when it came to my mom, my personal secret keeper. It was hard enough keeping the secret between the two of us when it wasn’t something our family had been interested in, but it all changed on New Year’s Day. Our aunt (who wasn’t our aunt but might as well be) or close friend’s mother had become aware of her daughter’s sexuality and wasn’t taking it well. She broke down in tears in front of my cousin and my parents when talking about the possibility of not having grandchildren. She managed to not mention any specifics about her daughter, which left our parents hounding us as soon as she stepped out of the door. Being the subjects of the interrogation , we immediately deflected any attention regarding the sexuality of our close friend to her brother, trying to give her more time to come out with the secret herself. While it might have not have been the most noble noblest thing, it had our parents questioning her brother for quite some time.

In the end , when our cousin had found love in a girl that year, and with some investigative skills (Facebook), our parents found out that it wasn’t her brother who found love with the same sex but his sister. Being someone who shares absolutely everything with my mother, she questioned the closeness of our relationship but ultimately understood the reason for the secrecy and discretion. My cousin and I have since retired from the position of secret keepers.

Excellent description. Love the narrative and how you ‘flow’ with the personal dilemma. Watch the language, please.

I’ve got a secret

Gregory Matook

Group 4

IDS3309 – FIU

Autonomy is maintained by secrecy and confidentiality.

Everyone has lied or kept a secret at some time in their lives. Lies are tools to hide secrets, which maintain confidentiality, and are not always used (passive voice) for selfish reasons. Secrets allow someone to keep things private. Privacy is important (essential?) to everybody. It promotes and maintains autonomy. Without autonomy, we wouldn’t be able to function as individuals in society. (Good, a little more, please)

What an awkward situation I was put through. One day, when left alone at breakfast after a night after clubbing, my friend’s girlfriend, Ashley, and I were talking when she suddenly asked, “does Alex cheat on me when you guys go out to clubs,” among other questions. The answers I gave were no, but only some of those answers were true. In truth, Alex had never cheated on her, but he did drink and would voice his ideas about getting with other girls from time to time. Alex had asked me on multiple occasions to not tell his girlfriend about that, so I respected his wishes. Personally, I knew he would never cheat, but of course , this situation still made me feel a bit awkward. (Normal, good description)

I suppose this made me feel empowered, but not in the way I would prefer to feel empowered. It was more of a “troublesome” empowered. (!) When Ashley was asking me these questions, I felt like I was being questioned (passive voice) as if I was in the relationship, even though she did not repeatedly question me. I felt bad (terrible?) about lying to her, but Alex wished to keep his thoughts private to the intimates he felt comfortable expressing them to (preposition at the end of a sentence). She just so happened to not be labeled an intimate in this case, for obvious reasons.
When Ashley was trying to penetrate the secret, I not only felt concerned about Alex’s feelings as well as Ashley’s but also about the friendship I hold with Ashley. I felt like I couldn’t lie, but my respect for and friendship with Alex is stronger than that of Ashley, so I felt compelled to do so. I was also entrusted (passive voice) with information to be kept (passive voice) secret.
Of course, being entrusted with information that could possibly harm Ashley and/or Alex made me feel anxious. To this day, I have maintained the secret Alex wished for me to keep. Although Alex and Ashley are no longer together, I still feel the burden of keeping that a secret.

Being entrusted with secret information gives us prima facie, a responsibility to never expose the secret unless otherwise told. (Good) Lying about a friend’s secret, especially to another friend, is very difficult because it forces you to show loyalty to one friend over another. Keeping up with the lie is the most difficult (challenging?) part because oftentimes, the person keeping the secret needs to change certain aspects of their activity in order to hide the secret.

Keeping secrets is not easy to do , and this situation helped me understand that. Just keeping the secret hidden was difficult enough but being interrogated about it put even more of a burden on me. I would prefer to not be put (passive voice) through a situation where I feel compelled to lie to someone.

Good narrative. Easy to follow the idea. Your expressed dilemma is easy to identify with. Watch the language, please.

I’ll Keep Your Secret

Roger Sierra 4962737

During my spring semester , while attending Florida International University, my best friend Adrian secretly confided in me his struggle to accept the fact he was bisexual. Adrian came from a family that expressed Christian/Catholic values in his household. His whole family leaned to the conservative way of thinking, where they think his sexual orientation is wrong. Adrian had said, it wasn’t rather difficult, but he is still in the process of accepting everything. It is because of internalized homophobia , that Adrian is scared to completely accept it. The Hispanic culture usually depicts a person who’s homosexual as lesser of a man.

I am rather close to Adrian’s family, I have known them since I was 12 years old, and I would come over regularly. Adrian’s father has never asked me about Adrian’s sexuality , so I didn’t have to lie to him for the time being. According to professor Blevens’ video, he says, “every lie needs justification, but secrets do not.”  I did not tell other people Adrian’s secret because I wanted to protect him. After Adrian had told me he was bisexual, he was just completely saddened, and unfortunately, we had to go to the dining room to eat. Adrian’s father was there and asked why his son looked the way he did. I told him he got a bad grade on one of his exams, it is said (passive voice) in the video, secrecy equals intentional concealment , and that overlaps privacy. That includes all aspects of identity , since Adrian identifies as bisexual, I could essentially lie to his father.

Adrian felt safe with me keeping his secret, and I was not going to let him down. You can say, I lied in order to keep the secret, I didn’t lie about the secret in of itself. I did whatever it took to keep Adrian’s identity a secret, I didn’t want him to feel the need to tell his parents any time soon. I wanted (tried?) to make him know that he shouldn’t be ashamed for (of?) being who he is. I told him, everything gets better with time and be true to who you are. The things Adrian and I have gone through , and talking it through have made our friendship rather stronger than it was before.

My mother every now and then will try to press me the secret of Adrian’s sexuality. I accepted to keep his sexuality a secret I view it as described in the video with Blevens , ; it was a “prima facia duty” for me to keep Adrian’s secret a secret. “You do not break it, once you pledge that you have to live by that, no exception.” This was the type of promise I entered in with Adrian , and he admired it. As identified in the video, having this particular promise would put a tremendous burden on me, but I didn’t see it that way. I will do whatever it takes for my friend , and I will do it again in a heartbeat if I can. Out of his entire family, Adrian ended up telling his mother his secret , and she is okay with it. He intends to tell his father later on, when exactly remains a mystery. (a little mysterious)

Excellent narrative and selection of the argument. Also, remembers to use references to class.

Individual Assignment 4: I’ve got a secret

Sebastien Hilaire

This assignment helps me understand the important of secrecy. To keep a secret is to keep information that can be kept hidden. In modern to keep a secret is still possible. Usually to keep a secret someone else must tell you there secret or be caught (passive voice) in the act of doing something. I kept a secret about someone cheating during a test. There actions were not to be considered good if caught by the professor of the class. Before the student began taking the test, he sat right next to and swore me into secrecy that I will not speak about him cheating on the test. Being sworn into secrecy is to make someone promise not to tell anyone else what you have to them. I could have said no , but that would have broken our friendship. Ruining a friendship is a terrible thing to, it also reflects if someone can rely on you for anything. By agreeing to this secret , I swore into confidentiality. To be sworn into Cconfidentiality , is the protection of personal information. Confidentiality is important for several reasons. One of the most important elements of confidentiality is that it helps to build and develop trust. It potentially allows for the free flow of information between the person and another person to acknowledge that a personal life and all the issues and problems that they have belong to them. He was my friend during high school , and this was my final exam. This final exam would have determined whether as a student would have passed the class or not. By keep his secret save it gave me leverage. While taking the test , everything was fine for the first half hour of taking the test. The friend that I kept a secret for then used this cell phone for the internet, to look for answers on it.  Will he was committing this act the professor then say saw the reflection of his phone. He rushed , and the professor said that he saw the student using his cell phone but at the same time the student put his cell phone away , so the act was unclear. Another important leverage was the teacher trusted since I was an A student , to be honest.  The professor asked whether or not the student was using his phone during the test , since the student was right next me. At the moment Now the power of my decision would be a drastic one. I have the absolute power to whether lie to my friend or my professor. My friend was looking at me , and the professor was looking at me. I told my professor the absolute lie instead of the truth. The rebuttal that he saw a light shining from a cell phone. Rather than making a strong accusation with not witness he asked me again are you sure? While my friend was still looking at me , I said, Yes! By the professor tried to get the truth out of me when he reinstated his question. Instead he left, my friend and I continued the test. What I learned was by keeping my word it’s an action that holds power. Someone in confidentiality hold (carry?) a lot of power for the victim. In society when keeping a secret people have to must keep their promises of that specific secret in strong consideration. Secrets are kept everyday but was is not known can’t physically or mentally harm those that do not know.

What a conundrum, to be or not to be. Writing in a block. Good narrative. Please, pay more attention to language.













Blackout Assignment – Greg Matook

When I watch the news, I notice that most of the time I feel a strong amount of anxiety about the world. During my forty-eight-hour blackout experience, I felt good to stop listening to (the?) news. I have never been one to drastically submerge myself in media whether it be social media or the news but disconnecting for this short amount of time was helpful to my mental well-being. Nowadays, most of the news has something to do with something bad (wrong?) in society. Hearing bad thing after bad thing (doesn’t sound right) affects people mentally, so disconnecting myself from the outside world for two days was very beneficial. (Agreed, but what else about class and theory?)

The News is are important (essential?) to me, but I do not think it is my driving factor for making decisions. (!) In a time where we need to be extra careful of the information we believe, taking time to reflect on life and feel solitude was very inspiring to me. I believe (think?) the news is are a necessary part of many people’s lives, but I feel it should not have to be an intrusion of our solitude. The way the news is are presented to its audience creates a sense of anxiety amongst everyone in society. (please expand)
I learned a lot about not only society but myself while doing this assignment. Nowadays, society has an innate need to feel connected because of the information technology we have available to us on a daily basis. Deleting all my news apps and social media for these two days helped me connect more with myself and life in general. Normally (Usually?) when I am not at work or school, I am watching television at home, which generally consists of news.
This assignment could not have come at a better time. With the recent event that happened in Parkland, Florida, disconnecting was one of the best things I could have done at the time. Every local and even national news channel had been covering the story non-stop for days with updates about the shooter and victims. It was sickening to me. Leaving all that talk about death and violence behind for two days helped me appreciate my life and what I wake up to every day. The sad truth is that not everyone gets to go home every evening, but I have been lucky enough to be one of the people who has have. (Good)

One of the toughest (most terrible?) things for me during this assignment was the disconnection from music, weather, and sports. I always try to see what the weather pattern may be like in the coming week and I keep up with my favorite sports teams on a daily basis. Sports was even more difficult to disconnect from because the Olympics are under way. Disconnecting from news helped me feel a better sense of solitude and lack of anxiety, but it was weird to me to remove sports and weather and news about the music world. (Only entertainment and sports?)
Overall, I enjoyed disconnecting from the news for forty-eight-hours. I felt better about myself, about society, and the people around me. This blackout restored my faith in humanity, until I turned the news back on that is. (Good)