The time I kept a Secret

Thesis Statement: Keeping secrets comes with keeping lies, this affects the other relationships around you without you even noticing until it goes too far.
There were plenty of times in my life where I was asked to keep a secret and I did it. Last year I had to keep my own secret from my family. The secret that I had to keep from my family was that I had a boyfriend. The issue was not that I was not allowed to date, the issue was who I was dating. This secret went on through my Senior year in high school, I kept it for the sole purpose that I was so “in love” with this boy and he was “in love” with me. Everyone at school knew we were dating I just had to keep it from my family because they didn’t approve. My mom did not like the boy for various reasons, all for which she was right not to like him. Him and I dated for a year and a half, up until 8 months was when things fell through with my mom and that’s when him and I started dating in secret. We were good at keeping this from my parents. I was not allowed to have any type of contact with him but of course we found our own ways. We would write letters to each other and give them to mutual, trusting friends who were like our mail men. We communicated through social media, he made a whole new Instagram account, as did I, so that we could talk without getting any attention. We would also meet up at school, I volunteered at school my senior year just so that I could see him because I had an abbreviated schedule. I found ways to meet up with him and with that came lying to my parents. It didn’t bother me at first because I was lying to keep a relationship I was happy in alive. We were closer during this time in our relationship and that goes towards the intimacy aspect of having secrets. It was fun keeping it a secret because it felt like it was us against the world, it felt like only him and I had each other’s backs and although it was a very toxic situation we ignored that and had comfort in knowing that we had each other. Our bond grew stronger and as a result we were blinded by how toxic the relationship was getting. The relationship was getting toxic because there’s danger in secrecy. The both of us shut off our judgement, we both knew that the way we were going about our relationship was wrong but we hung on to each other because we had built this secret together and we felt as if all we had were each other. This situation didn’t empower me, it stressed me out and made me feel terrible having to lie to my mother. I was jeopardizing other relationships for this relationship that was not going to last passed my senior year. In the end of this my mom found out about my little secret, as a result him and I are no longer together. All things done in the dark come to light eventually. PLEASE SEPARATE INTO PARAGRAPHS. WELL DONE BUT DO NOT SEE ANALYSIS OF CONCEPTS FROM READING.

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48 hour Blackout

Forty-eight hours later and the end of solitude has come. Going two days without the news was more difficult than what I thought it would be. During the first few hours it was hard to not check social media such as Instagram, Snapchat and Twitter just to keep myself from seeing the news. This part was the hardest because I’m on them all day every day. Not being able to be on them made me feel like I was not connected to the outside world, it was as if I was completely shut out of it. I was not able to communicate with my friends through these social media platforms which is something I do every day so I was missing a lot. I had to stop my mom from telling me the news on several occasions, we talk every day on the phone and she went to tell me what was going on in the world and I had to explain to her why I needed her to stop. I felt bad doing this because this is something we talk about every day and I’m interested in knowing what kind of ciaos I am living in. The first few hours of this blackout did not phase me that much, it was not until later in the day when I went home that it hit me. I had been a day without hearing about the news and without looking it up myself. The next day I started to feel like Tom Hanks in Cast Away, I felt as if I needed a Wilson to keep me sane. HAHA I got rained on multiple times because I could not check the weather. HA This blackout was really getting to me now, I never realized just how much time I spend on social media platforms and how much of my friendships are tied into it. I did realize that I do have a select group of real friends, the people that I know I can count on no matter what. This made me feel good but it didn’t stop me from feeling lonely, the sense of loneliness began to sink in. At first I felt like this was taking forever, this was the worst assignment I have ever had to do, then I felt at peace. I spend all this time on this time with staying up to date on the news, school, my friends, my family, sports that I rarely ever take any time for myself. This assignment was a blessing in disguise for me. Going these two days without worrying about what the weather was going to be like or what Trump was doing now to “make America great again,” really gave me the time to focus on me and have time to myself. I check the news and keep myself up to date through social media platforms because for me it’s the easiest the way and having my mom tell me about it. I was less stressed doing this, it was a feeling of relaxation. All these mixed emotions I had during the blackout made me think that maybe at first when solitude begins to hit you, it’s as if it’s the end of the world but then a sense of calm sinks in and it feels good. We are much like robots at times just getting through the day and never taking a break. We don’t ever stop worrying about things or what is going to happen next. We tend to be humans doing rather than humans feeling. FUNNY. AND GOOD JOB. YOU NEED TO TAG GROUP ON YOUR POST.

I’ve got a secret

Thesis Statement: Just liked we talked about in Ghost in a Shell, keeping secrets and telling lies all depends on the occasion, if it is for the greater good then it is okay. STARTING THESIS STATEMENT WITH “JUST” AND USING “TALKED ABOUT” NOT A GOOD IDEA.

 

Secrets and lies are a very complex topic because it has to do a lot with morality. If someone tells you in confidence that they did something wrong, it is hard to determine what to do, do you break that persons trust and inform the people necessary about what that person did wrong or do you just keep it a secret and not reveal what that person told you in confidence. In both scenarios you are doing something that is morally wrong, in the first scenario you are breaking the confidence and private information that this person decided to share with you because they thought they could trust you, on the other hand in the second scenario you are letting that person get away with whatever it is that they did that was wrong. You need to examine all the possible outcomes and be able to choose intelligently the one that is for the greater good.

 

I myself had to make this hard decision in one occasion. My younger brother wanted to have some friends over to the house to hang out and have some fun, so he asked my mother if they could come over. She asked him how many they were and he said four, which my mom agreed to but she also clearly stated that no more than four. My mom was going to a dinner so she left me in charge. When my mom left my brother came up to me and told me that he was going to bring 10 friends, and then asked me if I was going to tell our mom that he had lied to her and he had not followed her rules. At that moment I had two choices to make, do I allow him to bring the 10 friends over and disobey the orders that our mom had clearly told him, or do I break his trust and tell our mom that he was going to disobey her. It was a very hard decision because I didn’t want to break the trust of my brother, but also I didn’t want to allow him to disobey the rules and do what he wants. I thought about it, and came to the conclusion that the right thing to do was to go ahead and let our mom know that he was planning to bring more people to the house. I came to this conclusion because if I don’t say anything to my mom, she would have found out some other way, maybe through social media or something and then punish my brother for disobeying her and me for lying to her. Also if a kid got accidentally hurt, she would have no idea what was going on and that would get her in a lot of trouble. I looked at both the scenarios and I decide the best possible outcome. GOOD ANALYSIS. READING CONCEPTS NOT APPLIED HERE BUT GOOD EFFORT.

Secrecy by Brandon Fuentes

Thesis statement: To analyze multiple experiences that I went through and how it difficult it was to hold secrets and analyze what secrecy, lying, and confidently CONFIDENTIALITY? has made me the way I am.  Sharing secrets can be a difficult task and I’ve learned the hard way it secrecy, lying, and confidently has empowered me.

Talking about my secret is tough.  Through my life, I’ve kept my own secrets and other people’s secrets.  But the secrets I’ve kept for a long time should be expressed.  I suffer from depression.  My depression had developed around last year in December after graduating from Miami-Dade college.  It’s never an easy topic to discuss at all and I’ve tried so hard to be happy but I can’t seem to enjoy myself. I even throw this negativity at everyone.  It’s just a secret that I’ve kept for so long and I don’t like to talk to about it because of trust issues.

There were times that I had to lie to my friends and family that I was fine.  But, my body language and facial expression give it away because I look down and they start asking if I’m ok.  I even put on a fake smile so no one would be worried.  The cause of this issue is the experiences that I’ve been through.  When I was younger, I would see family members drink until they pass out or even fight each other.  Another experience I had been through was when I was picked on during high school and have hung around the wrong crowd.  What I mean by that is I was around drug dealers and people who were looking for trouble.  During my 4 years in high school, I was mostly alone.  Sure, I’ve had some friends but I still felt alone.

When my depression got worse, the first person that I have ever told about my condition was Leonie.  She was someone who I can run to whenever things went bad.  She knew my secret and at the end of the day, things did not work out between us.  Fortunately, she was one of the few that didn’t reveal my secret to anyone, nor did I reveal her secret to anyone.

The multiple experiences that I’ve mentioned have shaped me to become someone so secretive and so down.  It’s gotten to the point to where I have trouble sleeping.  The people who I thought were my friends have tried to expose my secrets by saying that I am dramatic, crazy, or just annoying.  I felt upset because I’ve trusted them and even the first person I have ever told about my depression had let me down.  Some would even laugh at me.

Keeping secrets is difficult to do, no matter what the situation is.  Whether it’s a small or big issue, it’s not right for anyone to reveal a secret to anyone else.  That was the mistake I’ve made for the past few years.  But secrecy, lying, and confidently are three elements that I understand completely.  I make sure that I don’t post anything on social media about my condition because it’s not the right thing to do and I don’t want anyone else knowing what I am going through.  Luckily, I am seeking help by going to therapy.  Hopefully, it helps me become happy again. WELL WRITTEN AND VERY HONEST AND DETAILED.

48 hour Blackout by Brandon Fuentes

I began the 48-hour blackout from October 2nd– October 4th.  This isn’t the first time I had isolated myself from the news and social media.  Last year, I was assigned to disconnect myself from social media for 3 days.  It was rough at first because I was eager to know what other people were doing.  It was very tempting to open my phone.  I barely use social media because I’m always busy such as finishing homework assignment or at work.  However, I was curious about what was occurring both around my area and around the world.

The news is a reliable resource, especially for a journalism major like myself.  The first few hours were awkward because so much was happening during the weekend.  But before I was disconnected from social media, I was reading an article about the shooting in Las Vegas.  Now, I don’t know any updates on the shooter’s motive to kill innocent people.  I also didn’t’ know anything about the NBA pre-season.  I agree that news plays a role in our everyday lives.  If we are not informed of the news, whether if it’s sports related or news related, we feel left out. GOOD

However, I had some close calls.  During the 3rd hour of the blackout, my professor from my advertising class was showing videos of updates of the Las Vegas shooting.  I had no choice but to look down and put my hoodie up so I won’t look at the screen.  I even had to step out so I wouldn’t listen to what CNN was saying about the shooting.  During the 13th and 17th hour of the blackout, my mother had almost told me about what was President Trump’s plan while visiting Puerto Rico and I had to stop her midway through the conversation.  Another situation was while talking to my group member, both of us had almost opened snapchat. INTERESTING

Overall the experience was great.  I have no complaints but news cannot be avoided, especially in this era where technology is advancing at a fast rate and especially that we do not read newspapers anymore.  Throughout these 2 days, I saw everything differently.  While I was not looking at news and at my phone, I replaced my solitude with other activities.  I was working out at the gym without my headsets and I was so zoned in I forgot that they were even showing the news on TV.  The solitude I felt was loneliness because I had distanced myself from the outside world. OK UNIQUE PERSPECTIVE ON SOLITUDE DIFFERENT FROM THE ARTICLE

The news creates more solitude by making us think to ourselves, such as Major Kusanagi’s solitude when she was diving in the ocean to avoid the outside world and felt loneliness in Ghost in the Shell.  In general, the news is an important media and people should experience this blackout to know their true solitude.  Whether if it’s anxious, sadness, anger, or other expressions, people should find the right solitude that expresses themselves such as going to the park or writing your thoughts in a journal.

48-hour news blackout

 

People now a days are extremely self-conscious because all they want to do is be liked by everyone else. GOOD. Social media brought on this problem to society because everyone wants to be the most popular, the most liked, the “coolest.” As William Deresiewicz stated in “The End of Solitude,” it is truly impossible to be secluded from the world because of all the different technology that is available to us. Also since people want other people’s approval so much, then they would not want to be alone or disconnected at any point of the day, because they want to know the latest fashion and what is “in or out.” Personally, this 48 hour black out was not really that difficult because I have experienced a very similar scenario. Yes, I was tempted to look at my phone and catch up with everything that is going on, but I have learned to be secluded, therefore, I was not freaking out. The hardest challenge for me was not being able to catch up on sports. I love every single sport and not being able to know what was going on around the world was extremely difficult for me.

 

The reason why this black out was not such a big challenge for me, because first of all, I don’t really watch the news, and I don’t really keep up with current events. I basically started to read the news only for this class, so that wouldn’t be a problem. HONEST.  Secondly, because last winter, I went on a birthright trip to Israel. It is a 10-day trip all around Israel with about 40 other participants. Around day 5, my got some water from the dead sea inside of it and died about 10 minutes later. I was extremely frustrated at the time, but what I didn’t realize was that it was going to help me a lot. The next 5 days I was able to enjoy the trip a lot more because I wasn’t worried about checking my phone all the time and instead I was just a lot more relaxed paying more attention to the trip itself. I was able to make more friends, learn more very interesting information, but most of all, I was able to disconnect myself from all of the artificial world, which was extremely rewarding. When I found out that we had to do a 48-hour blackout for this class, I was extremely excited because I was going to be able to separate myself from all the fakeness of the world. I also excited because of the challenge, not being able to check your phone because it is broken is easy because there is nothing that you can do, but having your phone right there working and not being able to check it, is much harder. I really enjoyed this assignment because it is really unusual, but it has a lot of benefits because you may come to realize that technology and news and all that is not everything. There is a world out there, and if you live inside of all the technology, then you will not be able to enjoy it.

Too Little Solitude? 48-Hour News Blackout

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Solitude is something I assumed I could handle before doing this assignment. However, after spending two days disconnected from any news sources I would say I was wrong. I had to fight the urge to open social media applications every couple minutes. This was something I didn’t expect because I typically go days without using my phone while I’m on vacation. The less you have to do to keep yourself busy, the crazier your mind goes. This is perhaps why people like to do things they enjoy to pass the time.

It was strange not being able to know what my friends were up to or post about what I was doing. After a couple hours of being “in the dark”, I realized how pointless knowing what random people are doing is. The news, even as simple as a quick status update, is something that today’s society relies on to go about a normal day. From checking current events to taking a look at the weather forecast, people tend to revolve what they do around what’s going on around them. While participating in this assignment I remembered what I felt like during Hurricane Irma. My power was out for almost two weeks and all my family and I could do was either sleep or eat the little snacks we had. Although it was irritating being cooped up in my house and sweaty, for a few days I felt more connected to my family. Sadly, we had to undergo a hurricane in order to have forced conversations but I realized how little we talk throughout a normal week. This sense of personal face-to-face communication is something that today’s generation doesn’t appreciate.

In the article “The End of Solitude”, Deresiewicz states that the camera creates a “culture of celebrity” and the computer creates a “culture of connectivity”. I agree with both of these statements. Along with wanting to constantly remain connected, today’s society has also developed a sense of narcissism. Deresiewicz supports my statement by saying that all people are concerned about is how many friends they have on Facebook. He also mentions how a girl felt so lonely, she couldn’t do an essay without somebody near her. The fact that she can’t do this alone shows how people have “lost their capacity for solitude” like Deresiewicz says. The “popularity” factor that technology has takes a toll on a person’s self-esteem. People are worried about how many likes they receive on a post or how many people viewed what they posted. This becomes an issue when people start caring more about their “online persona” more than what people think about them in real life.

Deresiewicz also makes an interesting point when he talks about technology and its effect on religion. In many religions, solitude is necessary to connect with yourself spiritually. Today, not many people have the opportunity to do that. Overall, the news is a necessary intrusion to our solitude because the idea of being socially connected is good. The real question is, to what extent is a person too connected? And how would too little solitude affect a person’s everyday routine?