I’ve got a secret

Christopher Meneses Lopez



[ Introduction not needed. Apply the points made here to the situation with your brother.] It is frequently said that lies are told to protect secrets, establishing a symbiotic and conditional relationship between the two. The idea goes, that If you had nothing to hide, there would be no need for a lie. From simple white lies, to blatant untruths, there is always some truth- a secret – that you are protecting. [Organize your writing: new idea, new paragraph.] Think of the lie as a barrier or gate shielding away that truth. For example, think of a time where you have said this often used expression “Oh sorry. I didn’t see your call my phone was on silent”, when in reality you were ignoring them. The truth might be that you didn’t want to talk to that person, but you would rather hide that secret with a lie. [Organize your writing: new idea, new paragraph.] Moving to even bigger lies, such as for example, lying to your significant other about your whereabouts, you are essentially committing the same act of shielding a secret with a lie. However, in each of the two previous scenarios the choice to commit the lie was your own, and the consequences and moral dilemma of that action rest solely on your shoulders. But, What happens when you are forced to lie for someone else? This adds another factor into the equation – Confidentiality.

Growing up, my older brother had a bad habit of truancy. Him [case: He] and his friends would often skip High [lowercase] school, or leave early, and dabble in juvenile deviancy

. Being five years younger, I was aware of my brother’s habits. [Organize your writing: new idea, new paragraph.] After one day catching my brother, I had sworn to never tell my parents where my brother would run off to. I often found myself lying more than usual to protect my brother from being punished. [Organize your writing: new idea, new paragraph.] Each time I committed the lie, it for some reason, felt very very wrong. Worse than a normal lie. [Relate to class: Keeping a confidentiality puts tremendous burden on the agent.] [Organize your writing: new idea, new paragraph.] When we develop friendships and close relationship with others, we tend to share secrets, or inadvertently discover people’s secrets. Often times this will place us in uncomfortable situations. When we are forced to keep other peoples secrets and decisions, it not only affect us, but those around us. [Organize your writing: new idea, new paragraph.] When I had to lie for my brother, It felt like I was the one skipping school, as weird as that sounds. I felt a part of the lie. I felt terrible. When you are forced to lie for others, you subconsciously absorb their guilt.

Questions about the situation:

[Do you think the person trying to penetrate the secret had a desire to know, gain control, feel superior, or be intimate?]

[Relate your feelings and insights to the readings. Did people make appeals based on ethos (your sense of honor, loyalty or justice) or pathos (feelings)? Did you carry a burden the way that Edward Snowden said he did?]


[Paragraph repeats earlier points.] I conclude, that when you lie for someone else it adds an uneasy dimension to the act of lying. When you lie for yourself, for better or for worse, you are choosing to face your moral dilemma. But when out of your relationship to another, you are coerced into this moral dilemma, you are not as likely to be on board. I think it comes down to the fact that we would rather be responsible for our own actions than the actions of others. Confidentiality, lies, and secrets are all connected. And if Lies are told to protect secrets, then confidentiality is when you protect the secrets of others.


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