Lying by Hanai Garcia

Lying, if done out of complete necessity, is a valid reason to avoid consequences.

When I got my first job at a five star restaurant I was eager to please. I answered phones, took reservations, and cleaned my workstation constantly. Being the youngest employee at just 18, my higher ups were impressed with my work ethic. They trusted me with many things including giving me the keys to open the offices after hours. I enjoyed working there more than anything.

I had a supervisor every night named Andrew. He would watch me like a hawk and wait for me to make the slightest mistake. I would always be doing my job correctly so he could never say something to me. But Andrew was also a perfectionist and he never made a mistake. His orders always came out perfect and when he took reservations the guests were always satisfied. He was a very snarky man and if I ever asked a question he would make sure to answer condescendingly. Andrew annoyed me often with his comments and behaviors.

On a busy Saturday night in the middle of season Andrew got a call from the Rittenhouse family. Whenever they came to dine at the restaurant they would always get the best table and the best service because they would leave a huge tip. So like any manager would he booked their reservation ahead of all the other diners that evening. But what he didn’t realize was that I already booked the restaurant owner’s family for the same night a week earlier.

The shift went on as normal, the Rittenhouse family arrived on time and were sat at a huge table in the middle of the dinning room. Andrew was prancing around the kitchen talking about how he was able to book the Rittenhouse’s table on such short notice that they will most definitely leave hundreds of dollars as a tip. In that moment the owners of the restaurant, the Smiths, walked in. If you know about the restaurant business you would understand that in a small restaurant, having two very large parties is a problem, for both staff and guests. So Andrew panicked that he didn’t notice the error.

The error could have been mostly mine. And he screamed at the top of his lungs asking who booked the Smiths for dinner tonight. I did not answer him. And when he asked me specifically I had to say no. Andrew is such a hot head that he would fire me on the spot and not take into account how much I do for the restaurant or all my other good qualities as a worker. I lied to my manager about who made the reservation and lucky for me my shift was over before I could see how he solved the situation.

I learned from my mistake despite not suffering any consequences. Lying was the only solution to this situation. GOOD STORY AND EXAMPLE BUT YOU COULD HAVE ANALYZED THE SECRET A BIT MORE.

 

 

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Christian D. Martinez: I’ve got a secret

Thesis:     When my friend George told me about him cheating on my other friend Angelica it taught me a life lesson on how secrets can only remain confidential if you lie or withhold the truth.

A time in my life that I felt compelled to lie about something a friend told me was when a good friend of mine confessed that he had cheated on his girlfriend who I was also really good friends with. This left me in a predicament where I had to choose between telling her the truth and making her feel bad or just keeping it to myself and let her keep dating someone who obviously did her wrong. I chose to not say anything and instead I would tell him so many times to go and tell her due to it not being right and that in the end she’d end up finding out anyways. This experience empowered me more than my friend since after I had received this information I used to make him feel sorry for his actions.  ANALYSIS HERE. Eventually she ended up finding out from a different friend of his and it was a worse scenario than if he just confided in her in the first place, she would’ve still broken up with him but at least she would have heard it from him rather than someone else.

Keeping this secret was very tough due to not being able to tell a close friend of mine that she was being cheated and lied to by someone who was just as close to me while others tried to see if I knew something was going on. People would ask me since I was close to the guy if I knew if they were having problems or anything just so they could go and tell her which led to my lying and saying that I had no idea what was going on or what was happening between them. I felt bad lying since looking back on it it wasn’t the right thing to do but in order to keep the secret of him cheating on her I couldn’t let anyone know that I knew. Even when the story came out that he had cheated on her I still kept my word and continued being both of their friends without having to lose either of them.

Throughout this experience I learned that in order to keep a secret from coming out you must lie or withhold the truth in order for it to truly stay a secret. Without lying, you wouldn’t be able to keep the secret since as soon as someone asks you anything you’d spill the beans and expose yourself and your friends. Overall, my situation pushed me to lie to keep a secret which empowered me to make things right and push my friend to tell his girlfriend that he cheated on her rather than pretending like everything is okay and while others did try to penetrate the secret I kept everything to myself and lied to keep the confidentiality alive and others from being hurt. GOOD REFLECTION

I’ve got a secret-Alondra Nieves

The idea is usually “Honesty is the best policy”, but the reality is that secrets cannot be kept with such honesty.There are not many times in my life where I have had put myself in a situation to lie–that is, thus far. This goes of course without saying the times where the secret I preferred to keep in secrecy was compromised to the the point where lying was the only option. One of them being during my first semester of college, which was my first of many other things; such as, living on my own, being four hours or more away from family or any source of supervision and of course my first college party/outing with friends. During this particular point in my newly established “adulthood”, I found myself hardly having to lie to my parents as I was more simply not saying the whole truth in itself. For example, “I am with my roommates in our room right now”,  although it was true, did not disclose the fact that were in our room getting ready to leave completely off campus. (CLASSIC)

However, the time were I was caught not sharing the entirety of my so called truth was when my mom had made an unexpected call that I felt I could answer and get away with–despite that I was already on the way to a party about forty minutes from campus. As all mothers do, she began to interrogate my intentions as to where I was going so late at night (10:30 PM),who was I with and why was I going there. I answered nervously because I realized that for once I had to lie to someone I had never felt the need to lie to before.  

The reality of the situation was that I was not on my way to friend’s off campus adult supervised house, I was not with people that I knew from highschool and I was not on the way to hang out and study. All of this was clearly understood by my mother even though she was 400 miles on the opposite of the peninsula. She began asking for names of who I was with (to which I gave of were old friends from back home that she had never met), my exact destined location( to which I described as fifteen to twenty minutes off campus) and if I had class the next day (to which I replied that it had been canceled).  After enough convincing, she had no choice but to submit to the lie I had created and once we ended the phone call the mixed feelings I had were that of relief, slight guilt and most of all a sense of  empowerment that fueled my mentality that my secret would be secure. STRONG ANALYSIS OF YOUR FEELINGS ENTWINED IN THE LIES. It was the feeling that was unfamiliar but at the time it was the only way to hide the truth that could not be revealed to a mother whose nest is almost empty as it is.

Secrecy – Ashley DeGroot

Thesis: Secrets are used to protect individuals, however, sometimes keeping a secret can also negatively impact someone else and in these cases it is justified to not withhold a secret to reduce the overall harm to ones we love. GOOD THESIS

I am close friends with two sisters, one of which lives here in Miami and the other who lives back in Guyana. Sam, the sister from Guyana, called me one day and told me she was coming to Miami to surprise her sister, with whom she would be staying with for her time here. Soon after the call, Mery, the sister here in Miami had called me and told me how she had a feeling that Sam was coming to visit, she explained her disgust of surprises and the fact that although she wants to see her sister she hates the uncertainty of not knowing when she’d show up. Mery likes to plan her weeks, and I know if Sam showed up it would throw everything off for Mery.

This placed me in a situation of loyalty, while Sam trusted me to keep her secret, Mery was a closer friend of mine and I was finding it really hard to withhold information that could affect her. Especially when there was an instance previously where I had given Sam the attention over Mery and Mery was totally upset with me, because I crossed her loyalty and it affected our friendship. I felt like I owed it to Mery to help her prepare but I did not want to break Sam’s trust, if she was to find out, as she would be hurt too. GOOD

After a few days of contemplation, I decided to tell Mery when Sam was coming. Mery was happy to know and stated that this proved my loyalty to her and she continued on like she did not knew Sam was coming. When Sam arrived, and I had picked her up from the airport and we were on our way to Mery’s house, Sam stated that she felt Mery knew she was coming and I instantly got nervous as I thought my cover was blown. When we arrived at Mery’s house, she acted so surprised even I forgot she knew. My secret was never revealed.

My inability of keeping Sam’s secret was due to the fact that it kept information from my closer friend Mery and it was beginning to question my loyalty towards her. Due to this, my friendship with Mery grew even more because of my proven loyalty to her.

 

 

SECRECY

Thesis statement: Secrecy, confidentiality and lies are correlated. Lies exist to conceal secrets which by silent promises or not, must be kept confidential but it is in one’s hands to nurture or stop lies that grow secrecy.

When you first agree to keep a promise you know what you are getting yourself into. One must know that if they can’t keep secrets, then they should not commit to doing so. If one commits to doing so, then that secret must be protected as if it were yours even if it means that you have to lie. There is an interrelation between all of these terms; they all stand together.

When you promise confidentiality to someone, especially to your best friend, you have the obligation to secrecy. This year, my best friend whose name I’ll change to Vanessa to protect her identity, and I, started working at the same restaurant. This new restaurant had good vibes and many people our age worked there too. Vanessa had been in a relationship for two years with this guy that from my point of view, treated her in a bad way. She started to realize that herself and became a little distant from him. Sometime later, she started to go out more with her friends and have time for her. During that time, she met this guy from work called Sebastian whom she began to like. She felt confused because that had never happened to her before.

One night, my coworkers and I went to a party. In short, Vanessa ended up kissing Sebastian. From that moment on, without her telling me or anyone else, we all knew that this occurrence had to be kept as a secret.

Time passed by and rumors started to rise until they reached Vanessa’s boyfriend’s ears. He, who knew I am her best friend, asked me if the rumor was true. I had to put my best face and deny it to protect my friend’s secret with lies. I felt I was between the sword and the wall since I’m not used to lying, but I had one job and it was to make him think something totally opposite. I felt compelled to lie and told him, in a very serious way, that those were just rumors and that I was the one who kissed Sebastian. This is how I started to nurture the lie, but I knew I had to guard the information that my friend didn’t want him to know. The more one tries to guard secrets, the more the lie grows. GOOD RETELLING. OUCH HOPE SHE AND HER BOYFRIEND HAVE BOTH MOVED ON.

Mariana Murillo.

Secrets and Revelations Blog: Kendal Taylor (10-12-17)

Thesis Statement: Even to spare the feelings of a loved one, it is not acceptable to conceal information from them because the consequences can cause unintentional harm.  

Is there an acceptable time to lie? Are white lies acceptable?  Society cannot come to a conclusive answer. There is disagreement over the context of lying or keeping secrets, especially from loved ones. Even to spare the feelings of a loved one, it is not acceptable to conceal information from them because the consequences can cause unintentional harm.  

A year ago, one of my best friends needed a job. She seemed desperate, and asked if she could apply to my workplace. Since I was one of the general managers, she knew I could put in a good word with the hiring manager. I encouraged her to apply. I proofread her resume, helped her prepare for the interview, and arranged for her to speak with the hiring manager directly. She was hired within the week. She was grateful for the job, and I was happy that she was thrilled to be working with me.

After she completed her training, she was assigned to work with all the departments so she could fully understand the company. Besides the occasional carpooling and having lunch together, I hadn’t seen her work that much. She had the occasional complaint, but don’t we all? I didn’t think much of it. I was excited that I would be working with one of my good friends. However, a great friend does not always make a great co-worker.

About three months later, the managers convened for our quarterly meeting. After we talked about the various departments, the managers reviewed the performance reports. My friend’s report was terrible. The details consisted of tardiness, excessive phone use and lack of job skills. I was mortified. The managers agreed that her performance was disappointing, but they would give her some time to improve. I felt conflicted. I didn’t know how to tell her without hurting her feelings or betraying the confidence of the department managers.  To avoid confrontation, I decided to keep the performance report to myself and hoped my supervisor would talk to her.  

Every time I saw her at work, I felt a pit in my stomach. I didn’t want to disappoint my coworkers, but didn’t want to hurt my friend’s feelings. As depicted in the lecture, secrecy nurtures an environment for more lies. GOOD  The danger of secrets is that hurts judgment by shutting off criticism and feedback. This can hurt people, even if it was to protect their feelings. There was pressure to inform her of performance and position within the company. I knew this job meant a lot to her, so I decided to be honest. She didn’t seem surprised by the feedback, but respected that I was honest with her.  

Although I felt guilty because I knew information she did not, I did have some control over the situation. Knowledge is power. Once she was made aware of the situation, I lost some of the power. I learned from the situation that to be a good friend, you should be an honest one.  Even to spare the feelings of a loved one, it is not acceptable to conceal information from them because the consequences can cause unintentional harm.  WELL DONE.

Secrecy

Thesis: Dealing with secrecy is something that affects everyones lives at some point or another. Although keeping my brothers secret for most of my adolescent years put a strain on my relationship with my mother, it ultimately helped me become a more compassionate and understanding adult. GOOD

Secrecy is the act of keeping things hidden. It stems from deliberately keeping something from others out of fear, embarrassment, or other reasons. Some may keep a secret because they believe it to potentially have a negative impact on someone specific or because it may cause harm to the secret-keeper and those around them. Sometimes, there’s even an element of shame behind confidentiality. Regardless, the act of secrecy is something that can become prevalent in anyone’s life, at one point or another. It can be detrimental and put a strain on your relationship with someone. For me, it became an issue I dealt with almost my entire life.

From an early age, my older brother and I have constantly cultivated a very close relationship. Because our parents brought us up in an old fashioned manner, we were always able help one another keep secrets from them and find comfort in our mutual trust. However, nothing could have prepared me for the intimate detail my brother would one day reveal to me. Because he is only two years older, we faced the same issues simultaneously. We both went through our transition from children to young adults around the same time, but he dealt with it a lot differently. I became social, started going out on the weekends, and got better grades. He was the polar opposite. Our mother attributed this to the difference in our genders, but it was only a matter of time before my brother revealed the real reason to me. He confessed to me that he was gay and that he was having a hard time dealing with the matter.

From that moment on, I saw him in a different light, not because of his sexuality, but because of the courage he had to reveal this intimate part of himself to me. On the other hand, my mother confided in me as well. She vented, telling me that she blamed her parenting for my brothers distant behavior, and that she wished he would let her in again. I would be lying if I said this didn’t make me feel guilty for keeping such vital detail of his life from her. This put a silent strain on our relationship, one that was almost unfathomable. However, I was always painfully aware that this was my brother’s secret to share, not mine.

Ultimately, this experience empowered not only my brother and I, but my parents as well. He went through stages of denial, depression, and culpability, which were all necessary on his journey to acceptance. Although my parents were shocked and hurt when he confessed to them, they were able to realize that his sexuality was merely a part of him, that it didn’t change him as a person. As for me, I wouldn’t be the same person today if I hadn’t dealt with my brothers experience through a second hand perspective. It helped me become understanding, open-minded, and more considerate of the people around me. WELL WRITTEN AND A POWERFUL STORY.