Solitude in today’s society

Faisal Alsurayhi

Florida international university International University

Team 4

When reading the text by William Deresiewicz, I see myself in his description of how social media has taken away our solitude. Solitude which has long been regarded (passive voice) as a religious virtue had its benefits in society. However, people have replaced solitude with social media which is about following news and celebrities. I can barely go two hours without logging to a social media site. Surprisingly, I talk to my friends more on social media than I would talk (speak?) to them in person. There are times I text the person next door instead of walking there and having a talk (again?) with the person.  Notably, I have many friends whom I have never met physically and still feel that we connect more with social media. I have met people I share personal beliefs and aspirations which seemed awkward to the people I know. Additionally, I would not go a day without watching or reading celebrity news lest I find myself out of fashion when my friends talk about the latest trend.  Celebrity gossip is a must follow, it will be the talk of the day which means I have to stay updated. From the lives of celebrities as shown on social media the people define the lifestyle of many young people depending on who appeals to who. Albeit the staunch (strong?) following of social media updates, I still value solitude which I see as alone time for self-introspection. I prefer to go a place where it is just me and nature taking in the fresh air. (Really? Good description)

Taking on the challenge of solitude came as an impromptu. (Nice) I wondered how I could do this with everyone else around watching the news and enjoying their regular social media. Honestly, I had to write on my public walls that I will be away so that my friends would not be worried. They would check my last seen and want to contact me which would abort my mission. The first two hours were fine as I kept myself busy doing house chores here and there.  As the day progressed, I began to wonder what is happening in the world that I don’t know. I got so curious and almost picked my phone telling myself that the only bad (dreadful?) thing is to comment on the news. (so, you were missing social media and not the news?) The pressure continued to build until I decided to go to the park for a walk. I realized that there were many beautiful things I rarely noticed at the park, unfortunately, this time around I did not have the cameras to roll for selfish and best captures. (!) I needed to go home. I got anxious not knowing what the weather will be or traffic. I was getting all sorts of bad thoughts but encouraged myself to move since I would not be the only road user. For the first time in my life, I noticed the importance of news. I would have gotten weather forecast news and used my goggle application to get the weather news as I usually do. Nonetheless, the peace of mind I experienced I would not trade for anything. There is too much on social media that one needs to have in their mind that it blocks important (essential?) things including fellowship with family and friends. Thus, the news is somewhat a necessary intrusion that should be regulated so that it does not clog our thinking. (Regulated?)

(Good description)

Deresiewicz, W. (2009). The End of Solitude. The Chronicles of Higher Education.


48-hr Media Blackout Reflections

Djarha Naela Foureau

PID: 6077853

Dr. Blevens and Prof. Pearson

Team 15

Upon being assigned a mandatory 48-hour media blackout, I was overwhelmed with the seemingly incessant worldwide strife and dissent displayed on media networks for the public to consume. Coming from a background of journalism– specifically editorial writing, I am used to being well-versed on current events and tend to have a natural inclination and interest towards it. However with media experience comes the knowledge that almost, if not every piece generated by outlets today contains some underlying politicized agenda. Knowing the journalistic code of ethics like the back of my hand, this and the fact that the general public eats up what the media outlets spoon-feed them sickens me.

I’d love to say that the 48-hours of media silence and solitude gave me CNN withdrawals. It would be easier for me to tell you that not logging into my Instagram for two days gave me shakes more violent than the ones I’ve had going caffeine-free in the newsroom. But I would be lying to you if I did.


The truth is, this isn’t my first time undergoing a voluntary media blackout, and with the state of the world today, it won’t be my last. My motto is: “the cavemen did it and survived. What’s the difference today?” The world today is over saturated with media content– often giving voices of celebrity, expertise, wisdom and opinions to those whom wouldn’t naturally garner it. Events that would’ve been considered violent phenomena in the 90’s such as mass shootings has not only desensitized but has become normalized by today’s society– in part, due to the significant attention and coverage the general media gives it.

I find that those whom choose not to expand their information sources beyond what they can reach with a TV remote or app-tap tend to lack true insight as to what is going on around them. As Emerson is quoted in “the End of Solitude,” “One must protect oneself from the momentum of intellectual and moral consensus.”  Separation from the masses every once in a while can be refreshing and beneficial to oneself and can give birth to new ideas and perspectives through critical thinking not originally possible following group-think or the general consensus. Very well-put!

In doing so, I realized this practice should be more commonplace. Being more aware of my surroundings during the blackout made me notice how stressed and bitter the people around me were. Every time Trump did something stupid my parents in an uproar, would try to tell me about it. Tensions in my neighborhood nearing a local high school were heightened due to the most recent mass shooting. It seemed as if everyone was on edge and had a chip on their shoulder because of what was going on both domestically and internationally.

Two days without the media pissing on me and calling it rain gave me some time to actually self-reflect on my progress towards self-actualization. Instead of being tied to my phone, I went for a jog around the neighborhood, did some yoga, spent quality time with my fur-babies, and began reading the shelved books I have that have started collecting dust. For two entire days I focused on bettering myself and repairing my pessimistic and slightly-depressed psyche from the constant world terror and dilemma broadcast-ed by the media– and it was great.

Enjoyable essay!  I didn’t see a clear thesis statement however.  Overall very well-written and good use of language.

Rhetorical analysis:​”Why Our Memory Fails Us”

Christopher Marsch


IDS 3309

18 January 2018


Good work, Christopher. Intelligent commentary.

Rhetorical analysis

  Thesis: In this article, pathos and logos were practiced to convey the authors’ message of understanding that people aren’t necessarily lying due to their lack of remembrance, and that we should apologize for our memory lapses and forgive them in other people. GOOD THESIS.

In the article “Why Our Memory Fails Us” by Chris Chavris and Daniel Simon they discussed how memories fade over tim. They  made evident that speaking out of confidence about what you thought you once remembered to be clear is a serious issue to address; however, the article made it clear that memories tend to lose clarity when one is overloaded with new experiences. In this article, pathos and logos were practiced to convey the authors’ message of understanding that people aren’t necessarily lying due to their lack of remembrance and that we should be more forgiving about peoples’ memory lapses.

The writers took a logos approach doing an abundance of case studying and fact-checking over the statements that were made previously by George Bush, Neil Tyson, and Hillary Clinton in efforts to influence the audience with credible sources. This brought to attention there’s a problem with    focused attention on the problem of relying on one’s memory over time. While they also used the strategy of pathos by giving fairness asking for understanding and sympathy for to those who spoke confidently in what they thought was factual, they but were deceived by newer memories causing them to not remember the old ones as vividly. The tone set in the article can be described as informative as well as understanding. The writers stress the importance of speaking with only confidence on past experiences and while also accepting the fact people make mistakes and it doesn’t make them a liar because of their faded memories.

The first comment by Tim C used a lot of pathos to drive his belief. He thought, based on the article, that people should do what they believe in. In layman’s terms, Tim believes that you should go with your gut. He emphasizes this at the end of his comment when he said: “I believe there are a significant number of innocent persons serving sentences today because of honestly believe testimony based on the witness’s flawed memory.” So yes, having the correct information is necessary when making statements, but also believing in what you are saying is important.

The second comment by OM Hinton also uses pathos when commenting on the article. OM drives the point that “We are human and fallible, as well as manipulative.” this states that humans are imperfect and if influenced in the wrong way, they can easily be manipulated especially in terms of memory. It seems that OM, much like Tim believes in trusting your gut.

The third and most popular comment is done by Jacob Sommer. Jacob is using pathos which combines both OM and Tim’s messages into one. “It’s relatively common for people to attribute a negative experience to active malice instead of an honest mistake.” This goes along with Tim’s idea of sticking to your gut and OM’s idea that people aren’t perfect. Jacob explains that people naturally turn small mistakes into huge catastrophic events especially when looking for a scapegoat.

The ranking system for the top comments is effective but can also be biased. This is shown because the comments all used pathos or an emotional understanding to connect with their readers. So yes, pathos was the most powerful and this translated to these writers receiving the highest rankings, but it was also one-sided in terms of opinions and viewpoints.

OM Hinton and Jacob Sommer are there, but  I think you missed the Tyson article and got a couple of the wrong articles,

(I know it was hard to pick the right articles.)

Keylin Sevilla Group 2

In the articles provided for this assignment “Comment is King”, it was deliberately discussed that though Anne Applebaum is an accredited political journalist, and has the credentials to speak on political issues; people in the comment section often disregard her credentials, and make it seem that she does not know what she is talking about. (Sentence too long). Often times (tautology?), the commentators have already presumed the background of her personal life and discussed that maybe she’s she’d disappointed her own (tautology?) mother. Without any formal critique on of her political opinions, or even an a well informed comment, the commenters often let their emotions get the better of them. Instead of focusing on the titles that gives  give Applebaum, the required platform to talk about these issues. The commenters let their emotions, and biased opinions, to overtake them while they are writing their comments. It is it also shows is also shown that there is already a presumed opinion if the person is a woman, the majority of the comments (repetitive word) are sexist and biased. Most comments are condescending and have a conceited tone to them, that do which do not have a validity to them. This article alone is an example that even if someone is educated enough in the said subject, depending on who it is their presumption will take over, and disregard their credentials, will automatically presume that they’re right.

The reason why I decided to write about the article in the previous paragraph is to try to connect the arguments that authors Christopher Chabris and Daniel Simons wrote on “Why Our Memory Fails Us” which in this case is that when our memory is failed we tend to act negatively, and defensive presuming that we are right and others are wrong. (Sentence too long) Though , in the previous article did not reference memory the commenters were defensive, and dismissive while trying to prove the author wrong and presume that they are correct. Both Chabris and Simon gave the example of the worlds most famous astrophysicist Neil Degrasse deGrasse Tyson, as he tried to criticize former President Bush (Which one?) on his comments of the Islam community which he felt was prejudiced (passive voice) towards the community. However, Tyson (are you positive that Tyson is his last name?) did not give an accurate recollection of what the President said. When he was confronted (passive voice) , he responded defensively. The authors rely on both the emotions of the readers, as well as the facts and studies. They helped engage the readers well. The tones that had were informative, yet they tried to be entertaining. The top three comments for the article overall two of them were comical, while the third one was a well though thought out response. The comment section for the readers pick Neil Degrasse  deGrasse Tyson, defended himself and provided links in which he furthered explained himself in on the topic. Keith Dow commented that Tyson’s memory could be faulty and gave him examples of quotes explaining himself. In the NYT picks the comments where very well thought out and people were disagreeing and agreeing while using logos, and they were not insulting each other, and focused on the center message of the comments.

Good focus. Still, need to check before presenting.

A Rhetorical Analysis of “Why Our Memory Fails Us”

Alejandro Hernandez

IDS 3309

Professor Blevens/Pearsons

Group 33



Nice job, Alejandro.

You make many strong points, good discussion.

Thesis statement: In the article “Why Our Memory Fails Us,” Chabris and Simons establish logos, and ethos while drifting away from using emotional appeal to present their perspective. Hmmmmm, this is good, but I think they use a little pathos at the end when they beg us (emotional appeal) to apologize when we make memory mistakes and to forgive other peoples’ memory mistakes. What do you think?

Why Our Memory Fails Us,” has an assortment of rhetorical elements that aim at making the readers understand the arguments effectively. The authors offer pieces of past research in support of their claims. They focus on examining the downsides of relying on our memory. They conclude that our memory usually fails us, although not out of malevolence.  although it is not out of malevolence, our memory can fail us and it actually does. Chabris and Simons establish logos, and ethos (how do they show ethos? Can you cite a specific example?……. Like they show ethos by the fact that they are both heavy-duty research psychologists, so we should  respect what they have to say.) while drifting away from using emotional appeal to present their perspective )(See my comment above about emotional appeal.)




The authors of this article are both professors that conceivably have acquired knowledge and proficiency to discuss such a topic. This means they make use of ethos through their authoritative credibility. The audience is appealed to the believes that the psychological professors give trustworthy information due to their high academic levels. The authors also use pathos in the passage to instill emotions in the audience (FIU Online). Through defending Neil Tyson after being criticized and alleged to have lied, the audience is more likely to develop empathy and sympathize with him. Finally, Chabris and Simons use logos through analysis of facts presented by Henry the psychologist (Charbis and Simons). In addition to that, they also use easily conceivable words by the audience.

All through the article, the authors maintain a sincere exploratory and informative tone. Only in the concluding paragraph where  do the authors give some reality check through becoming a bit informal. Also, they do not they make their arguments civil by not forcing their readers to believe what they say. The authors’ structure of arguments permitted the audience to understand the content in a very assertive manner[THE LAST TWO SENTENCES ARE NOT COMPLETELY CLEAR. DO YOU MEAN:  Their arguments are civil; they do not force their readers to believe what they say. The authors’ arguments permit the audience to thoroughly understand the content.].

Based on the top three comments, it is evident that the NY times approach to ranking is effective since they do not show biases and irrelevance. It is needed to ensure that the most important and effective comments are first seen before people scroll to read the rest. It is important to pay attention to the online commenters (Heffernan). The top three comments are convincing due to their relevance and credibility. To make their points effective, the commenters used a strong sense of appeal to entice wide viewership. Tyson, who is the second in the comment section, is comic (pathos) and the core of his comment is in the links he provides. This is an appeal of ethos since he establishes trustworthiness, reliability, and credibility. Appealing to his credibility as a scholar, Tyson went ahead to create awareness that he only talks factual ideas and perspectives. (I think you should have discussed a few more specific reader comments.)

In conclusion, the use of ethos, logos, and pathos and drifting away from emotional appeals in “Why Our Memory Fails Us,” improved the effectiveness of the essay to the audience. The fact that the authors used evidence to support their claims appealed to the credibility of the essay as scholars (ethos and logos). The examples provided and the use of rhetorical elements captured the attention of the audience, and hence, achieving the author’s main purpose.


Rhetorical Analysis

The article clearly states that our very own hubris in recollecting memories stands in the way of relaying the actual events that occurred. In “Why Our Memory Fails Us” by Christopher F. Chabris and Daniel J. Simons, we grasp the fact that we need to be accepting of our shortcoming with our memory. We don’t possess the ability to precisely remember every detail on of past incidents. Chabris and Simons support this explanation by providing logical support from psychologists and scientist who specifically work on this subject. The framework of the article is very straightforward and concise with a formal tone. The writers aren’t on a mission to be dismissive with our natural inkling to be curt concerning with being confronted with our memories with the studies provided to emphasize their point. The writers opened the article with an anecdote involving the former President George W. Bush’s quotes in a speech and astrophysicist Neil DeGrasse Tyson and how memory can fail by our sheer unwillingness to admit to our flaws. This piece is intended to inform the audience that whenever were challenged by a recollection of our memories that we gloss by the actual events and emotionally and unintentionally forget certain details that can be instrumental. Both writers include cases in which there’s critical concern for this issue. Especially for the court system where one’s memory can heavily altered the lives of others. There’s also evidence to support this claim throughout the article. Our memories can morph even if it’s recent. Our deep connection to certain memories can take effect and blurred the lines.  Chabris and Simon provide content that be easily accessible for those who want to learn more about the ins and outs about memory and its effects. The commentary on this piece seems to be chaotic to say the least.

Comments were mainly targeted on certain subjects or details instead of the whole premise of the article. Many mocked President Bush and even the scientists featured in the article with such ease. They also rejected the research findings as if they were experts in this field. But on the upside, there were comments commending the article for being resourceful and insightful. I honestly wasn’t surprised by the lack of any analysis or breakdown of the article. Commenters rarely provide any insight on the subject matter being discussed. It’s becoming to be a hot trend for “pseudo journalists” to provide their two cents without including actual support and people fall for this and bask in it. One gets the sense from scrolling through the comment section that anyone with a mobile device at their fingertips has an opinion whether it’s needed or not. No one is ever scrutinized or punished by their use of language concerning the topic at hand. There’s a clear distinction between those who desperately want to be seen and those who want to gain more insight. Its quite telling at which direction in which the media is heading to in the future. Basically, anyone can be a journalist without a prior education.

Very good writing style, good points, well-done!









  GROUP #14


In the article “The End of Solitude”, Deresiewicz was able to provide the disconnection we have created with the need to be present on online but not within ourselves.
After fully immersing myself from the 48-hour blackout, I learned that I am exactly everything that Deresiewicz described in his article. Fear of missing out was a constant that I couldn’t bring myself to eliminate. Technology has made strides for all of us but has also caused us to lose touch of reality. We live in a society where we make ordinary people with no talent or anything substantial to offer into full-blown celebrities with a huge following, just because a video of theirs goes viral. We’re completely connected with the web but not with each other. We truly lost the ability to nourish and foster relationships without a technology device present. No one seems to take the time to even embrace their own solitude. God forbid were alone with our own thoughts. Deresiewicz points out that were afraid of being left out. Doing any activity alone seems frightening to many. The word “ISOLATION” itself has morphed into having a negative connotation. Technology may have made it much simpler for us to connect but it took away the essence of true connection.
Throughout my “blackout” experience I must admit that it was a challenge to not check out what everyone is doing or see what’s going on in the world. The lack of news was difficult to adjust. The news plays a huge part in our lives. It’s true that were bombarded by it on 24-hour cycle, but we need to be aware of what’s occurring in the country in its present state. We do take it for granted because we don’t take it seriously as we should. There’s a need for news and to use it correctly. We’re quick to post disparaging comments berating articles just for likes without even taking the time to read or even understand its content. We constantly seeking validation from complete strangers by retweets and likes.
I must admit that there was a sense of isolation that I forced myself to embrace during this time. My focus and concentration in class was in high alert. I also chose to get back into fitness which I put off for a while now, because it seems like distraction plays a pivotal role in my life these days. Conversations with my friends were much more engaging since no one was on their phones. Isolation doesn’t have to be a negative experience. It should be time where you can able to shut off the outside world and reflect on yourself. It won’t be an easy feat to achieve because it would mean that we would have the capability to forgo the Internet and enjoying our very own company. In a world where information is at such a high velocity and everything is on the go, solitude may seem to be an illusion if we don’t grasp it wholeheartedly.

Humfredo Bonilla


Good job, skip a space between paragraphs. Good attention to content.


Secrets- #14

Everyone has secrets, it’s human nature to have a level of privacy within yourself that you don’t necessarily feel the need to reveal to everyone else.


Growing up I have shared and received innocent secrets here and there through childhood friends. This type of intimacy helped strengthen bonds I had with my friends. It was a sense of relief to be able to freely share secrets with a close confidante who wouldn’t expose the first opportunity that they can. We’ve learn to be conditioned to share every bit of information we received about others. It’s an inevitability that all secrets must come to light. They may destroy close relationships or bring upon changes that are needed to rectify any deep-rooted issues that are lingering about.

One such incident that has left an impact to me to this day is when a family member of mine with a family wanted to transition into a woman. I was very close with my cousin, we grew up together even though he was a few years older than me. We always had a close bond and connect on a personal level. He was star athlete with plans to run track in college. He has always been a caring person, always putting others needs before his very own. It was not a shock that he got married and is a father of two young kids. Until one night I invited him over to grab some drinks and catch up. We don’t see each other very often since he’s a family man now and I’m in college. He decided after some liquid courage to reveal to me that he wanted to transition and become a woman. He explained to me that he was always felt he was in the wrong body and wanted to finally become who he was meant to be. He always started that he started taking hormones and was starting his journey. I was in complete shock and didn’t know to react to this news. I never been aware or knew anyone who was a transgender so this is was completely new for me. He told me to keep this between us for now before he can tell his wife. I learned to accept my cousin and accompanied him to the doctor visits and staying quiet about the whole ordeal. I had to lie and distract anyone who seemed suspicious about what was going on. My cousin is currently taking the steps to transition so no one is aware even his own family.

It’s been challenging for me to hold this secret for so long. I feel a sense of guilt because his wife is oblivious to the whole situation. I worry that she won’t accept this and take his kids away. I don’t want a family destroyed by this. I know that this will cause a huge shift in the family dynamics because of the intense religious background I come from. Secrets will eventually be exposed and we must learn to accept any repercussions.


Well-written, good job!



Individual Assignment 4: I’ve got a secret

Secrets keep the world moving in a necessary order. They maintain the peace, but also create a clear line that differentiates citizens from their government. Some secrets are small enough that if they were to be uncovered, the repercussions would not be too bad. On the other hand, if a big enough secret becomes known it can cause a widespread panic. While I do believe in total transparency, I know that there is a time and place for secrets.

According to the readings, those who hold the secrets hold the power. Secrets help protect four human elements: identity, plans, action, and property. I had to keep a secret when I was in my Senior year of high school and it related to the concealment of someone’s identity and their actions. My close friend and I went to Walmart one day to stock up on our makeup supply. I decided to pay for my things, while my friend chose to slip her items into her purse and she faced the consequences. Long story short, she was arrested for stealing $75 worth of makeup at Walmart, which resulted resulting in her being driven to the station and booked. I was the only one with her so she swore me to ultimate secrecy from all our friends and both of our families, who are extremely close. I was definitely the one who had the power in this situation.

It has been over three years since the incident and  surprisingly, holding in this secret from our families has been quite easy for me. Covering up this secret was crucial to my friend’s well-being and it made me feel closer to my friend as I was the only one to whom who she could vent to. None of our family probed ( into this matter )because they were totally oblivious given the fact that she was 18 and the charge got expunged. Whenever I felt guilty, I thought about the fact that keeping this secret would cause less anxiety than if our families found out about a mistake and took it the wrong way.

Although I kept what happened hidden from our families, a balance between revelation and concealment is necessary according to the readings. Despite the fact that I felt comfortable keeping this secret from my family, it was definitely hard to keep it from our other best friend. We share everything else and I knew if she were to ever find out that we had kept it hidden, our relationship would suffer. One day I absentmindedly said something that sparked her inquiry into the situation the fact that I had to lie to one friend in order to help the other was difficult. I felt that I was compromising myself because I loved them both equally. My guilt led to anxiety and I gave in and told my friend what happened. Shockingly, she was okay with it and understood our reason for keeping it hidden.

There are other secrets that I have been unable to keep because of my own morals, however particular secrets are necessary to maintain order. Secrets that have a minimal impact on as few people as possible can get out have little consequence. Nevertheless, secrets that have a large impact are also necessary at certain times. 

Very much a narrative but well-written. 


Secrecy Assignment (Nayeli Lomeli Team 25)

Keeping a secret involves lies. One must lie to keep a secret. There is no way around it.


Secrecy and lying are linked. One does not exist without the other. They are tied by bonds such as: lies are used to guard secrets, lies are used to invade secrecy, and secrecy nurtures the growth of lies.

Secrets are kept for many reasons. It can be to protect personal space, to protect a name, or to protect all aspects of identity. In one case I had to keep a secret from my best friend to protect my identity as a friend.

It was December 24, 2014 and there he was. In the same Christmas party as me. I found the opportunity to finally talk to him after seeing him various times before; my best friend and I had seen him at our church before. I knew she thought he was cute, but I did too. We started a conversation and it went on as if we had known each other for years. I felt so comfortable with him, it was as though I could not keep anything from him. That night we exchanged numbers. When I got home my phone vibrated. A message from him. “Hey.” With a smile on my face I replied. “Hi.” We stayed up until five in the morning. Topic after topic, there was so much to talk about. We talked day and night, and that is how our story began.

When we went back to school from winter break my best friend told me she had found his Instagram and had asked him a random question to start a conversation. I did not know how to tell her that I already had his number and that we had been talking for a few days now. I also did not know how to tell her that he liked me. I wanted him to be the one to tell her so I kept it a secret. However, he did not find it necessary to tell her because he did not know she liked him. This, which she had told me in confidentiality, I could not tell him.

I was stuck between protecting my own identity; if I told her I talked to him knowing she liked him too what would she think of me? At the same time I had to keep her secret.

In this case I felt empowered. For one, I knew he liked me and not her, while she did not. I felt like I had the power to control the flow of information. I convinced him to tell her he liked me by saying that I “thought” she liked him. I lied. I knew she did. Once he told her, she obviously got mad at me for keeping such a secret from her and it hurt her. I will admit I acted against how I should have as a best friend, but then she began to start rumors about me. So as bad as it sounds, I did not feel bad about what had happened.

To keep my secrets I had to lie. Although I wish I had not done so, at the moment it was the only thing that felt right. Good example here with a strong analysis and overview of concepts from class.

Individual Assessment 4 Mariana Vetencourt Team 25

As humans we can all admit we have trusted someone with a secret and regretted it. Or you’ve been grateful to have trusted that person with this small part of you. Taking the burden of carrying this secret alone, as you know have someone to confide with. Yet sometimes taking that burden off yourself and putting it onto others harms them.

Recently I was trusted with a secret, a secret I would have to hide with a lie. This empowered the person that told me such secret as they know had a partner in crime. If someone asked them over the veracity of their actions I was there to lie to keep the secret hidden.

While others asked around why the person was not there I felt nervous. Nervous because if I were to say the wrong lie or give too much information the secret would be out. And the person who trusted me with this secret would know I was the one who failed to keep it safe.

Saturday came, and it was the moment of truth. Would this secret hold itself together and not put me in a position where I would have to lie? Sadly, it did. I had to lie to people close to me to keep this secret safe. Even when the secret and the lies were unjustified as it came from a place of convenience and lack of commitment. The more people asked the more nervous I felt and the more carefree my friend became. She knew I would vouch for her and nobody would doubt me or her.

Deep inside I knew this should not be taken as a big deal. This secret was not an atrocity to keep or came from actions that would endanger others or my friend. Yet openly lying to others felt morally wrong. These people trusted my words and did not doubt me as I lied to their faces.

As college students we generally become more open to others and with the same degree more trusting. We are now surrounded by new people we had never seen or met before and were expected to trust them. The first moment you step into your dorm you agree to trust and live with a complete group of strangers. And we accept that feeling we welcome new people into our lives and we believe and trust what they say and vice versa.

Lying to the new people in your life feels wrong as you’re creating this false image of your life and yourself. This also creates a sense of doubt, is that person lying to me also? This to me is the most controversial issue when it comes to keeping secrets and covering them with lies. Breaking others trust unknowingly as they believe what I say when I know I’m lying to preserve others. Will that person I’m covering see my lying as a flaw? Or will they see it as an act of loyalty from my part? Very well done well written with a strong grasp on concepts from class readings and lecture

I’ve got a secret- Camila Osorio Team 25

During my junior year in high school, one of best friends secretly confided in me that she was struggling with an eating disorder. Her secret become one of the hardest moments in my life, because I knew these types of secrets are the one that should no be kept a secret. She begged me not to tell anyone and promised her I wouldn’t, but her secret kept me up at night.

In such serious matter she felt that she could trust me and I did not want her to feel that her secret was safe with me. However, it was consuming me because I know this was a situation where she could not get out of it alone.

Regarding the lecture, I have to disagree that the secret it self to be a lie. However, I do have to agree that in order for me to kept her secret from everyone else, there were times when lying was inevitable.

As time goes by, my friend just kept getting worse. I started to notice drastic changes in both her emotional and physical appearance. At one point I even confronter her, because it was a secret I could no kept anymore. It felt that I was the one hurting her more than she was hurting herself.

Sometimes her confidentiality did come with an emotional burden. It was hard for me to see my best friend struggle with her apperance. I knew she wanted help, but she was too afraid to ask.

While keeping my best friends secret, as I felt sense of loyalty, I was also felt a sense of guilt and anguish. I felt loyal to her, because I knew how difficult it was for her and her telling made it a little easier. Yet, keeping her secret was not making her any better and at some point made me questions my morals. I was the only person that knew, I was the only chance for her to get help she needed.

I kept my best friends secret for a long time, but I got to the point where I knew I had to choose her life over her loyalty. After months of staying quiet, I finally broke the silence and talked to her mom. As imagined my best friend, felt betrayed and disappointed by me. However, in my guilt, I felt a sense of relieve.

When she finally got treatment for disorder, it was actually worst than the two of us had imagined and my guilt grew stronger. I learned that no matter how much I try, there are some secrets that should never be kept.

By helping her hide her secrets, I was unintentionally hurting her and being an accomplice to her disorder. She was upset for me for a while and I was hurt, I wanted her to understand I only did it because I care.

During her recuperation, she finally reached out to me and actually thanked me. At the end, the secret only made us wiser and our friendship grew stronger. Nice work including details from class concepts and lecture and sharing your story in an organized mannter.